A break up and divorce coach has the privilege of guiding individuals through one of life’s most challenging transitions. If you are going through a separation or break up, you know how hard it can be. The feelings of loss and grief can be overwhelming and bewildering. This short blog is to help you understand one aspect of this process – Limiting beliefs.

Limiting beliefs are those deeply ingrained convictions that shape the lens through which we perceive the world. Limiting beliefs are beliefs we hold that are untrue, though, at the time, they may feel true and prevent us from moving forward following heartbreak.

Anais Nin once said, “We don’t see things as they are, we see things as we are.” This profound insight encapsulates the essence of how our internal beliefs colour our external reality. When it comes to navigating the tumultuous waters of a breakup or divorce, understanding and overcoming limiting beliefs is crucial for personal growth and healing.

Limiting beliefs are often formed during our early experiences, shaped by societal norms, cultural influences, and personal traumas. They may also come about when we are in a relationship where we have lost a sense of our boundaries. Perhaps because the relationship is toxic or because we have experienced emotional manipulation or coercive control. They act like invisible barriers that confine us within the boundaries of self-doubt, fear, and negativity; during a breakup, these beliefs can become magnified, intensifying the emotional toll and hindering the path to recovery.

One common limiting belief is the fear of being alone. This fear can manifest as a reluctance to let go of an unhealthy relationship, even if it no longer serves our well-being. Another is the idea that we are not worthy of love or happiness after a breakup. These beliefs can become self-fulfilling prophecies, preventing us from embracing new opportunities and relationships, meaning that we become stuck and unable to move forwards.

At their worst, limiting beliefs can paralyse our ability to make even the smallest decisions or solve even minor problems. At their worst, limiting beliefs can deeply affect our mental health and may lead us to stay in a damaging relationship or to act in ways we know are not in our own best interests.

As a breakup and divorce coach, my mission is to help individuals break free from the chains of limiting beliefs. By challenging these internal narratives, we open the door to transformative possibilities. It’s about shifting perspectives, reframing narratives, and empowering my clients to see themselves and their futures in a new light.

Sometimes, even taking that first step to reach out can feel immensely hard as limiting beliefs can tell us that we are making things up, that things are not as bad as we are feeling, or that we are not worthy of help.

So, it is important to remember that limiting beliefs are ALWAYS wrong.

If you’d like more guidance on this topic or have specific questions, feel free to reach out. Remember, you’re not alone in this journey, and there’s hope for a brighter future.